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The Case of Missing Jewish Women in Media



Kylie is a Managing Editor at The Fandomentals on a mission to slay all the tropes. She has a penchant for complex familial dynamics and is easily pleased when authors include in-depth business details.

Something happened on February 15th that shook me to my core. It created a disturbance in the force. In one panel of the first Batwoman Rebirth issue, Kate Kane got punched in the face and said, “vey’z mir.”

I’m sorry, I should have warned you to sit for that. Because as small as it sounds, this was literally the first time I ever saw a Jewish character dropping some casual Yiddish as an involuntary response, rather than a joke. A female Jewish character.

Now Kate Kane is a ridiculously amazing example in this department because Marguerite Bennett is ridiculously good at doing her goddamn homework. But it made me realize something I hadn’t before: female Jewish representation is just terrible.

Okay, this is hardly shocking. Jewish representation as a whole is a bit lacking. When Griffin and I were trying to think of other Jewish characters (not counting those from Seinfeld, Broad City, or Curb Your Enthusiasm), we only managed to list the Broflovskis in South Park, Boris and Minka in Rugrats, and Ross and Monica from Friends off the top of our heads. Once I began thinking more deeply and compiled a list, I realized that even in cases where there is an explicitly Jewish character, more often than not it’s an informed attribute, and/or they’re trotted out for a holiday special like Sam in Danny Phantom or Arnold in The Magic School Bus (though his anxiety actually plays fairly well here).

Quit that kvetching of yours

But what I’ve noticed is that of the few Jewish characters we do get, there’s a concerning pattern where only the men are allowed to feel Jewish.

Look, before I get further into this, it needs to be said that Jewishness is not exactly simplistic. I think to a lot of non-Jews, there’s an assumption that being Jewish is all about practicing a religion and following a given set of rules. If a character keeps kosher and mentions that, then it’s great representation! And yeah, it’s not like there aren’t religious Jews who don’t get tattoos or who refrain from eating shellfish, because of course there are. But, especially for a lot of American Jews, it’s not so clean-cut. Reform Jews rarely keep Kosher or get overly-fussed if they drink water on Yom Kippur. There’s also these people called “secular Jews”, whose Jewishness is on a cultural level, but not on a religious one.

You know, maybe these are the kinds of people who didn’t have a Bat Mitzvah when their cousins did, because maybe their mom didn’t elect to have one of her own because maybe her brother had come home from Hebrew school crying every day, so when she raised kids she skipped that gantseh megillah with them, but it made them feel a little insecure at their uncle’s seder table when they mispronounced the prayers, almost as if they were faking being there somehow. Not that I’d know anything about this…

Being recent survivors of genocide (within the last century, at any rate), it’s not exactly shocking there’s a collective Jewish identity that matters even outside of those who practice Judaism as a religion, especially when so much of that practice is steeped in heavy oral tradition and collective memory. Actually here, let me just let Kate explain it:

Not just blood; you can opt-in, of course, so long as you adopt Jewish Guilt™.

That identity, ya know, matters and affects things. So characters that are made Jewish without any respect to that…stick out.

At the same time, we’re not a monolith. Not every Jew mixes Yiddish words into everyday speech (Griffin had trouble understanding me when we met). We don’t all answer questions with another question, and I think only 96.3% of us are neurotic. So, whether a character feels Jewish can be a bit ineffable and is definitely subjective.

For example, both Elaine and George on Seinfeld read to me as incredibly Jewish. This is hardly surprising given that they were created by Larry David and Jerry Seinfeld, and George was more or less supposed to be David. Yet both of them are canonically not. Why do they feel Jewish? Well, the answer to that is probably going to sound horrible and full of stereotypes. Elaine is sarcastic, often angry, and pedantic about exclamation point placement! George is cheap, self-deprecating, and has a nagging mother! Yeah, I know how this seems, believe me. And I’m not saying that the very cynical, New Yorker vibe is the only way a character can feel Jewish, nor that everyone with it is automatically a Jew. I am saying, however, there is a certain coding that can be instantly recognizable as Jewish, even without it being stated.

Yet there is a clear pattern regarding that coding: only male characters tend to evince it.

Sandy and Seth Cohen from the OC are unabashedly Jewish. Seth is almost the embodiment of the “nice Jewish boy” stereotype, while his lawyer father throws bagel and schmear parties. I can’t make this up.

Marissa actually brought the bagels as admittance into their house.

Kristen, Seth’s mom, is Christian. This is actually played as a culture clash in a pretty significant way, and you can tell that Sandy feels pre-judged by the Newport WASPs he has to interact with daily. Seth, in a response to his parents’ mixed backgrounds, created the all-important holiday of ‘Chrismukkah’, even though calendar dates rarely line up in a way where this makes sense. Just sayin’.

This Jewish dad/gentile mother combo is also the case with the Botwin family in Weeds. And Harley Quinn’s parents. And Ross and Monica Geller’s parents.  

Listen, I fully understand and appreciate the shiksa-appeal as a trope, but isn’t it just a tad suspicious that Jewish characters are far more likely to have Jewish dads? Especially given the importance placed on matrilineality for Jews?

I’m not even sure I can think of a counter example where a character has a Jewish mom and gentile father aside from Rugrats. To that, while I’ve sung the praises of Didi’s parents, Boris and Minka with their heavy Yiddish accents and glue-like borscht, Didi herself doesn’t feel Jewish in any respect. Like, when driving to her parents’ seder, her husband keeps going on about how terrible and boring this holiday is, and her response is mild annoyance. I also don’t think I can recall her uttering a single Yiddish word despite her parents likely being fluent. Oh and her brother got married in a church.

All of this could happen (just like a Jew could have a Christmas tree; I actually know a good number of families who didn’t want their kids to feel ‘left out’). But the fact is, if Boris and Minka had been made Stu’s parents, it’d make just as much sense. For Didi, it’s an informed attribute.

Even in the case of two Jewish parents, the mom is usually toned down, with the dad being the more devout one (though Batwoman subverts this, because of course it does). Willow from Buffy is maybe the best example here. Her mom was distant and kind of hard to get a handle on anyway, while her dad was the dude who was so Jewish that he banned her from watching A Charlie Brown Christmas. Which is just crazy; that soundtrack is amazing.

That’s really the crux of it: even outside of motherhood, Jewish women in media are dialed back more than male counterparts.

Heck, Willow fits into this to a degree. They tried with her, and to Whedon’s credit, she asserted her Jewishness every time something would come up like Christmas (no she doesn’t celebrate it!) or crosses (better hide them from Dad!). There was consistency over seven seasons, and honestly? That’s not nothing.

Also, this is not to discredit Alyson Hannigan’s performance, who does happen to be Jewish. She doesn’t write the scripts.

But the thing is, we don’t, like, turn off from being Jews if it’s not relevant to the conversation. We especially can’t in today’s climate. And I’m sorry, but it is more than correcting someone during the holidays.

Willow comes out during the show’s run. She practices witchcraft. Both these things, which are so crucial to her identity, would absolutely intersect with her Jewishness, especially since there’s a sort of innate…survivability this all connects to. It’s hard to explain and it’s not like there’s a perfect way to go about showing it, but there’s a reason we’re all about intersectional feminism here. Because intersecting identities matter to personhood, and therefore to characters.

Keeping Jewishness relegated to a last name ending in “stein” or “it’s a holiday party!” is a touch limited. Looking at you, Felicity Smoak.

Friends is far and away the worst example. I don’t even mind that Ross and Monica have a non-Jewish mother, especially when Elliott Gould’s Jack Geller is just 100% perfect. What drives me bonkers is that while both Ross and Monica have a fair bit of “Jewish in name only” going on with the writing, Ross is the only one of the two allowed to actually assert his Jewishness. Half of this is because he’s played by David Schwimmer, and his character is a perpetual whiner who is terrified of germs and went through the sensitive musician stage in college.

This is painfully accurate.

And yeah, maybe someone other than Courtney Cox could have brought a more authentic representation to the table, but the other half is most definitely the writing. We see Ross explicitly mention buying Hanukkah gifts and teaching his son, Ben, about the Jewish faith. Yes, it’s relegated to Hanukkah. (There are other holidays that matter to us a lot more, you know. Hanukkah is kind of a joke.) But still, it’s something. For Monica? Apparently her immaculately decorated Christmas tree is a standing tradition, and the role Judaism would play in her children’s lives with Chandler Bing wasn’t even worthy of a conversation. We just…knew she was Jewish because we were told. And she was the sister of Ross, who seemed pretty Jewish.

Adding insult to injury, there was a character that is the epitome of a JAP (Jewish American Princess): last name Green, super spoiled and materialistic, got a nose job for her 16th birthday, had a father who worked as a doctor and habitually stiffed servers on tips at restaurants, called her grandmother “Bubbe”, was from Long Island… Do I really need to keep going?

But yet Rachel was just, not Jewish. And yeah, I am the person who just said that Jewishness is more than asserting things around the holidays, and when there’s good coding Jews can still pick up on it without the character mentioning anything. But if you’re giving us a character who explicitly celebrates Christmas despite living up to every stereotype, an explanation might be in order? Even if it’s like “oh hey Rachel just likes Christmas shit because she’s a spoiled JAP”? Literally anything other than just the writers telling us she’s Jewish (and apparently ‘more of a Jew’ than Ross and Monica…) later?


God, at least Dumbledore’s relationship with Grindelwald being ambiguous was supposed to be somewhat of the point. And don’t give me the “it was the 90s” excuse, or act like this wouldn’t have come up in her relationship with Ross (a nice, Jewish boy!). Mary Tyler Moore broke that ground with Rhoda in the 70s.

However, I think my favorite example of an Informed-Jewish woman has to be from Mr. & Mrs. Smith, where at the very end of the movie, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are confessing secrets they’ve kept from one another during their five years of marriage, and Jolie just goes, “I’m Jewish.” Of course you are. I could totally tell. And of course it never came up in your marriage. Why would it? It’s just some trivia.

Compare this to Jewish men, not that there’s a wealth, who are allowed to simply…be super Jewish. Think Schmidt from New Girl.

Look, there are good examples of Jewish women in media out there (I’m told Grace Adler is well-done?). But there is a disconcerting pattern where it seems as though it’s more acceptable for Jewish men to, well, act Jewish. And I’m sorry, but I shouldn’t have to have a Bachelorparody show be the best representation on TV:

Her name is ‘Rebecca’ and she uses the phrase “Oy-M-G”

Give me Jewish women. Give me a passing mention of a holiday that isn’t Hanukkah. Give me a character who has to call their mom back within five minutes before she’s assumed to be dead.

Or, ya know, just give me more Kate Kane.

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  • rara

    The Amazing Ms.Maisel created by Amy Sherman Palladino could possibly be some good Jewish Woman rep. There are a few misses I noticed in the depiction but overall it was really interesting. Although as a non.religious person I would not be the best person to know.

    • I’ll have to check it out, though I’d be lying if I said the Year in the Life special didn’t shake my confidence in ASP’s storytelling, lol.

      • Mytly

        Speaking of ASP, Paris Gellar is of course Jewish. But hardly a counterpoint to the thesis of your article, given that the only reference to her Jewishness that I can recall is that she once mentioned having had a Bat Mitzvah.

        Minor examples of Jewish women in a recent TV show: Lauren in Younger is Jewish, though that doesn’t seem to stretch further than her throwing herself a do-over Bat Mitzvah when she turns 26 (because the original was apparently bad). And Maggie has a mini-arc in season 3 when she dates an Orthodox Jewish woman.

        • Paris also mentioned it because she had fun debating her boyfriend’s Christian family during the holidays? But yeah, that could have done with a tad bit of fleshing out. Though it is hard for Liza Weil not to scream it, sort of like how Cuddy’s Jewishness was scripted so thinly it needed to be lampshaded by House, and yet she’s played by Lisa Edelstein, so…

  • Rachel

    And then there are the Jewish women who possess Jewish cultural traits, only to happily sing Christmas carols, attend Christmas parties, etc. because it’s ‘normal.’ My parents had to go to the school board to protest me being made to sing religious Christmas carols in third grade and Glee’s Rachel Berry is 100% okay with it because Christmas somehow how a secular holiday now instead of a Christian one? So many Jewish characters on TV are only Jewish when it’s funny, not when it matters.

    • Right? I didn’t want to touch Glee because my memory is so spotty of it, but I do recall being annoyed by crap like that. I went to a highschool where I was literally one of two Jewish kids in my grade (out of ~300), and sort of grudgingly went along with everything, but it was still a struggle and I always felt disconnected and extra cranky around that time of year. And I say this as someone who had a Catholic paternal grandma that we’d humor by having a tree and junk! It’s just frustrating, because the modern day Jewish experience is usually quite complicated, and I think I’ve only seen it portrayed well in Curb (the “Larry, Joseph, and Mary” episode is still my favorite).

  • Simon


    Honestly, I’m embarrassed at how little cultural osmosis Judaism gets where I live. All the depictions I knew of (An American Tail, The Simpsons) always emphazied father-son bonds so you naturally buy into the patriarchical narrative that permeates all the other abrahamic religions. It’s kinda sad, yet crucial that we have to resort to fantasy world equivalents to get this kind of psychological representation. What you described about matrilenial roles, controlling mothers and self-deprecation just rang BEIFONG all throughout to me. And there’s so much to take away from the Stark sisters in how their religious/cultural identity has to survive amidst southron wars and courtship.

    Is there any particular text or meta you could recommend to further explore female Jewish representation? Thanks!

    • I actually don’t, because I don’t know that anyone’s really looked into this gendered pattern. Like, Griffin and I stumbled into it when discussing Kate, and we were surprised by our findings.

      That said you just gave me the idea for 3 or 4 other metas because JEWISH BEIFONGS holy crap

  • Morty

    That was interesting. The Jewish representation articles on here make me consider things I’ve never noticed.

    Also, mark “shiksa” down as another word I had no idea was Jewish in origin. I’ve heard it used in Polish as a general derogatory term for a young woman.

    • Yeah, it just means a non-Jewish young woman, usually who is hot and appealing to Jewish men. I think it’s often used in the negative (like moms complaining about it), but as far as I know there’s nothing inherently derogatory.

      I’m willing to bet there’s a lot we borrowed from Polish.

      • Morty

        I wonder why it became mildly pejorative in Polish, then. Anti-Semitism? Linguistic drift? It happens often.

        And I can’t claim to be an expert, but it does seem to have gone both ways. I remember seeing “shmatte” as a Yiddish word, which is Polish. Likewise with “kishkes”, which is Polish and/or Ukrainian. And there’s a few words I picked up from my father that I later learned were Yiddish.

  • Stephen Garrett

    *reads article*


    Note to self: when putting together character ideas for future stories, consider Jewish female in primary character position. Make sure to do research.

    • Stephen Garrett

      P.S. Bug Kylie as research if need be.

      • Stephen Garrett

        On second thought, don’t bug Kylie, for she is a mod and to mods, normal commentators/posters are crunchy and good with ketchup. Besides, I might delay whatever new Avatarverse fic she is working on, and that would be a Bad Thing.

        • Yikes! That’s not how how I view myself or commenters, lol.

          Always happy to be a resource for something like that, though like I said, we’re not a monolith. There are dozens of us!

          • Stephen Garrett

            Agreed. And truth be told, I do have a friend I turn to for input on writing Jewish stuff. The issue is that he’s not online a lot anymore due to work and home life.

            Of course, the P.S. stuff was me just being goofy and hopefully making people laugh. 😀

  • Fyodor

    Oy gevalt! Excellent analysis and very true, but I kept waiting for you to drop Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and…still…bupkis mit kaduchas.

    OK, I get that the total audience for the show is apparently only, like, 14 people but it’s one of the best shows created in the past decade. Rachel Bloom’s Rebecca Bunch is a work of genius in a genre-bending, trope-busting machine of a show.

    Neurotic over-achieving Manhattan lawyer from Scarsdale with domineering guilt-tripping Jewish mother (played by Tovah “Yentl” Feldschuh, FFS!) and Goy father ditches NY for West Covina, CA, in the pursuit of True Love™ only to fuck up her life and others. Bloom’s a musical theatre tragic so the show’s saturated with her brilliant original musical parodies. For your consideration: the JAP battle rap.

    On Seinfeld, George and Elaine have always seemed Jewish to me. Hard not to given the actors are of Jewish heritage. Although the character of Elaine is explicitly not Jewish (Hispanic, maybe…), Julia Louis-Dreyfus herself comes from a very famous (and famously rich) French Jewish family. Their company, Louis Dreyfus, is one of the world’s largest traders of agricultural commodities. Similarly, Julia Louis-Dreyfus’ Selina Meyer from Veep is also explicitly not Jewish, but gives off serious Jewish vibes through JLD’s performance.

    • I’ve been told by like 5 people today to see this after this article. It sounds perfect.

      • Fyodor

        Ha! I suspect its perfection may blow your mind, and I’d be very interested in your take on it.

  • Mims Dahn

    Are men usually more visible in the Jewish communities in the US? In my country the most visible are women as spokespersons or in their identities. Your article made me realize (embarrassingly for) that they get absolutely no contemporary representation in Norwegian popular culture (like movies, tv-series) though, no matter the genders . And most I know of outside of American and Israeli movies center are in some ways Holocaust-films (some of them really, really bad) or centered around religious fundamentalism (like Félix et Meira). That is a very limited representation. But there are some movies that depicts the relationship of Orthodox women and secular men, but it plays out a lot like forbidden romances. Félix et Meira is sort of an example of that

    I always thought Baby and her family in Dirty Dancing was Jewish,

    Thank you for a very illuminating read and thorough analysis 🙂

  • Mytly

    The best example of a Jewish female character in a TV show that I have seen – where the Jewishness was a vital aspect of the character, and not just a source of comedy – was Being Erica (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Being_Erica ), a Canadian dramedy about a thirty-something woman (Erica), who gets sent back in time by a supernatural therapist so that she can fix her past mistakes. Yes, it sounds extremely silly – and it occasionally was silly – but it was quite a lot of fun to watch. Erica’s Jewishness informs her character and her Jewish family play important roles in the show.

  • Maidens&Mules

    Fiddler on the Roof deserves a mention when talking about Jewish, particularly Jewish female, representation. Tevye might be the lead, but the story is much more about his three eldest daughters. Fiddler is definitely the exception that proves the rule though. I can’t think of any other musical that features so many Jewish women so prominently.

  • I would guess that a higher percentage of female tv characters are Jewish than Americans as a whole, but I agree that it’s more often male characters whose Jewishness is highlighted.

    The Constanzas of Seinfeld are an interesting case. Jerry Stiller has asserted that the only possible explanation for them officially being Italian Catholics is that they’re in witness protection. I’ve compared it to Archie Bunker of All in the Family (even though I’ve only seen the episode where him & Mike are locked in the cellar), where officially he’s supposed to be a WASP but everyone watching is going to think of him being (like Carrol O’Connor) an Irish Catholic. I don’t remember when Elaine’s background was delved into, except for when her boyfriend mistakenly thought she was hispanic.